Recovering after dating a borderline
To understand why our reactions can be so adverse, our partner needs to understand that because of our illness, we think differently in some ways to others.
When you finally meet the person who sets your world on fire, it feels incredible.
As such, I’ll try and share my two cents on dating someone with BPD.
One of the main symptoms of BPD, which I think is almost universal, is a ‘chronic feeling of emptiness’.
Googling the subject, I suddenly find the internet is awash with people who have an incredibly negative and distorted view about what it’s like to date a person with BPD.
Some of the comments hit home because, from an early age, I have had an extremely tempestuous love life, but I also know it can work if both partners learn to understand each other.
Dropping a message before you start working for the day to say you have a busy one ahead, but you’re thinking of them and will call later, will stop the midday freak out, because they know you care about them and they know you’re OK.