The conversation turns to music, and the American asks the French Woman what the songs are like in France.French Woman says: “Well – it seems that we always seem to focus on the part of life we are most clueless about.A guy who’s willing to move around huge blocks of time for YOU is a guy of his liberty.This is something that makes a man feel more like a MAN.Or you eat lunch at the same place on Fridays each week…This is part of the emotional journey a man goes through before coming to that crucial decision.
When he no longer feels that there’s something at stake, it also means he’s no longer invested in the relationship.(There is a way to tell for sure if he’s in this mindset or not – I’ll get to that in a bit…)One of the ways that a guy WILL tell you right out that is by saying something to the effect of: “I care about you.”OR: “You’re special to me.”Perhaps not in those exact words, but it will sound very much like that.The American woman pauses for a moment – remembering what the French Woman said about focusing on what we don’t understand. And NO, it won’t make sense to you – not any more than women constantly checking out their butts in the reflections of store windows.(We find that as baffling – ahem.)So, you might have to just deal with this reality.He doesn’t understand many of his emotions as well, so his expressions of love might feel a bit wonky from time to time.Whereas a woman feels more feminine with more connections and sharing. Maybe you both find each other in bed watching “Stranger Things” on Netflix.
Or binging on “Game of Thrones” together on the weekends.He’s not about to lose you over a simple miscommunication.