Asserting myself while dating
As Gillian Flynn wrote in the novel, this is the type of "girl" who "smiles in a chagrined, loving manner and lets [her man] do whatever [he] wants." She is basically "the girl who likes every fucking thing he likes and doesn’t ever complain." Hearing the concept laid out so succinctly validated so many of my own insecurities about how I fell short of societal expectations of how a woman should make herself appealing to men (and judging by the barrage of smart reaction pieces about the Cool Girl that followed, many women on the internet felt the same way). I am overly analytical, sometimes earnest, definitely neurotic, and extremely emotional. My college boyfriend was obsessed with prog rock, so I downloaded Genesis and Rush to my i Pod — even though I hated it.
I may not have known what to call her, but my fifth-grade self would sit on the swings during recess, in my dress I didn’t want to get dirty with butterfly clips in my hair, and check out the dynamics of the other girls and boys on the playground.But there was a small voice in the back of my head that said, Luckily, that was the voice I decided to listen to. But the more I practiced, the better I got at asserting myself and my wants and needs when it came to relationships.